Parenting Pitfalls to Avoid..
Notes from Sunday morning Service on
Victory Baptist Church, Sylva, NC
Preaching: Pastor Benny Bagwell
Main Scripture: Deuteronomy 6:6-9
7 Dangerous Ages For children
- The age of accountability
- first time going to school
- beginning athletics (ex. sport teams)
- physical maturity
- start driving/ working
- start to notice the opposite sex
- dictions after high school/ college
* Parenting doesn't end after graduation.
1. The age of accountability:
This is the time in a child's life when they come to realize what Jesus Christ has done for them. It is such a critical time in a child's life because it could mean the difference between accepting the Lord as their personal Savior or rejecting the Gospel of Christ. This happens at different ages for children but it is up to the parents to be living examples and to have priorities in order, especially spiritually. Parents are and will continue to have some of the biggest influence on their children.
2. First time going to school:
This can be tough on a child but it is also very hard for the parent too. Parents should not be ignorant to the spiritual dangers that a child can face in school, even in a Christian school. The temptations, the peer pressure, and even the pressures of being a Christian in a secular school can be tough. That is why it is up to the parents to teach a child the things of God so that they can handle the reality of the world.
3. Beginning Athletics:
There isn't anything wrong with a child participating in sports, but it is so easy for a sport to become the center of a child's life. It can become an obsession and if you're not careful, it begins to take the place that God should have in the heart, in the home, and in the lives of your family members.
4. Physical maturity:
This is a big one and pretty self explanatory. As a child gets older, as we all know, they have urges and desires. These are natural and good in the place God ordained for it and it is up to parents to teach this and help their children through times that may be uncomfortable for a child to deal with. Parents have the responsibility of teaching what God's Word says about these things. (i.e. crushes, "puppy love", physical attractions, hormones)
5. Start driving/ working:
This can also be a challenging time. It means more freedom and responsibility for the child but it also means that parents have to keep up with their children even more. This again is something that if a child is not taught about priorities can easily take over the place in their heart that was meant for God to hold. It can be good for a teenager to get a job, to learn and know what responsibility is, there is nothing wrong with that, but it must be put in its proper place.
6. Start noticing the opposite sex:
This is self explanatory too. So I won't go into talking about it other than to say that children learn from their parents what a marriage is suppose to be like. They learn what relationships are to be like and how they are to treat someone of the opposite sex, so parents be aware of what you are teaching your children and also be aware of what the world wants your children to learn. It's up to you to set the example and live by it.
7. Dictions about life after High School/ College:
Being a parent doesn't end after graduation. Dictions about the future are a big issue for kids. Things like college, marriage, and work are all things that will come after graduation. Children will need someone to go to when they need guidance and advice. Parents are the ones who need to be there to provide that guidance and support; to continue to remind their child to put God first in all things.
BODY OF THE MESSAGE:
Pitfalls to Avoid
1-< > >Failure to start training early. (Luke 1:41) You can not start too soon!!
2- Failure to understand the spiritual forces at work in your child's life. (John 10:10) Just like God, Satan has a plan for your child's life.
3- Failure to be a consistent, godly example.
4- Failure to love each child individually & unconditionally.
5- Failure to pass on your faith. (2 Timothy and Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
God made it very clear how to convey their faith from generation to generation:
A- Your faith must be real in your heart.
B- Teaching them will take diligent effort.
C- Teaching them will take intimate communication with them at every opportunity.
D- The Word of God must become a sign to guide them through the years.
E- They need to see the Word of God displayed openly before their eyes.
*** Don't depend on your pastor, church, or school to instill faith in your child. It isn't their responsibility, it is yours as parents.***
6- Failure to protect your child from bad influences.
7- Failure to openly admit your mistakes.
8- Failure to encourage. Parental approval will always be important to a person.