1. Choose your attitude: 2 Corinthians 12:10 "Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong." This doesn't come naturally, but we can choose to delight in weaknesses. This is one of the magnificent paradoxes of the cross: you bring to the cross your weakness and you receive God's strength. You bring Him your sins and you receive His righteousness. You bring Him your sorrows and you recieve His joy. You can choose to trust His faithfulness in every detail of your life and, in turn, that choice enables you to delight in the same messy details that could have dismayed you.
2. Choose to offer your pain to God: Whatever you are offering- pain, heartbreak, suffering, an accident, any disaster- you know you cannot handle it yourself. You don't need to go to thirty- nine of your closest friends first. The first thing you should do befre crying on anybody's shoulder is to open your hands and lift up your pain to God. He knows how to bring good out of evil. You may need to repeat this offering many times. Remember Joseph. Genesis 50:20 "But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive."
3. Choose to receive what God has given with open hands: Receive this thing that you cannot change. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says " In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." Whatever befalls us through man's negligence, or ill will, or anger, still it is in even the least circumstance, to us the will of God. For if the least thing could happen to us without God's permission, it would be something out of God's control.
4. Choose to renew your commitment to Him: Psalm 56:3,4 "What time I am afraid, I will trust in Thee. In God will I praise His Word, in God I have put my trust; I will not fear what flesh can do unto me." In spite of your emotional state you can choose to trust Him.
5. Choose to praise Him as Habakkuk did: Habakkuk praised God when there were no figs on the tree, no grapes on the vine, no cattle in the stall. Habakkuk didn't feel good about having no figs, no grapes, and no cattle, but he chose to rejoice in the Lord. You don't have to paste on a happy smile and pretend to be tickled to death because something dreadful has happened, but you can rejoice. Christ has died, Christ has risen, Christ will come again.
6. Choose to do the next thing: Trust in all with Jesus and do the next thing, leave the results with Him. God's will only requires one thing, obedience, start by doing the next thing. The Lord has assigned each one of us a portion and a cup, it is designed, measured precisely. We cannot change the circumstances but a door has opened and the crossing over to Christ has been made possible by acceptance. In acceptance lieth peace.
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