good quote

" In my opinion, the great single need of the moment is that light-hearted superficial religionists be struck down with a vision of God high and lifted up, with His train filling the temple. The holy art of worship seems to have passed away like the Shekinah glory from the tabernacle. As a result, we are left to our own devices and forced to make up the lack of spontaneous worship by ...bringing in countless cheap and tawdry activities to hold the attention of the church people." ~ A.W. Tozer

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Being More Gentle

"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:" James 1:19

It has been said "if the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail." Face it, because of our strong personalities some of us are inclined to use a hammer when something gentler will do. If that is your problem, try using the following T's:

(1) Total Picture. A middle- aged man walked into a store "Do you have anything to cure hiccups?" The pharmacist slapped him across the face. "Hey! What's the idea?" said the man. The pharmacist smiled, "Well, you don't have the hiccups any more, do you?" "I never did" replied the man. "I wanted something to cure my wife, she's out in the car." Do you come to conclusions before the problem has been laid out before you? Slow yourself down; you'll be more likely to respond appropriately.

(2) Timing. If the parent doesn't get the injured child to the hospital quickly enough, her life might be lost; and if you don't apologize when you've wronged someone, the relationship could be lost. When you act, is as important as taking the right action. Also knowing when not to act. It has been observed "the art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."

(3) Temperature. As tempers flare, we drop bombs when a slingshot would do. In general if the reaction is worse than the action, the problem usually increases and if the reaction is less than the action, the problem usually decreases. So let's try to be more gentle.

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